Why people have affairs?
Talk about a loaded matter that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on from old ages. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with problems, cause sadness, and other harms. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, money, age dissimilarity, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating for married.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek an extramarital affair. I am conserned mainly though it is only the human condition, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to lessen the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest group, enormous actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your assets are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the husband is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have just developed distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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